- I don’t love myself
- What’s preventing you?
- I don’t know, I wish I knew
What’s preventing so many women from loving themselves and believe in what they can achieve?
Feeling confident is a very subjective feeling. You know when you feel confident and when you don’t. But what does it mean for you concretely?
If you’ve been struggling with low self-confidence or self-esteem for a while, you probably have already tried something to overcome them. Many women read books and attend workshops looking for confidence tips and I think it’s a great first step. I also know that as much as reading books is great, it won’t be enough to solve the problem. Because we can only solve the problem if we work on it (more on this in my approach to solve low self-confidence). So with this exercise I want to help you to get some clarity on what low self-confidence is for you.
in FAQ
I mentioned in a previous post that a self-confidence issue often hides a deeper self-esteem issue. And that both are based on a limiting self-belief about being good enough in order to be loved and supported. As I say often, we learn our inner truths when we are children and we develop a sense of how we are and how worth we are.
This is one of the most frequently asked questions. So today I want to answer this question with an article, with the purpose of clarifying what a coach is and how you can benefit of hiring such a professional.
The mechanism of feeling not good enough is based on a self-belief: the belief that we aren’t good enough in order to be loved and included. Its roots are in the self-identity and how we learnt to value who we are. Based on this belief, we have thoughts which create emotions and make us feel bad about ourselves. That feeling determines how we behave, respond and act in the environment.