I mentioned in a previous post that a self-confidence issue often hides a deeper self-esteem issue. And that both are based on a limiting self-belief about being good enough in order to be loved and supported. As I say often, we learn our inner truths when we are children and we develop a sense of how we are and how worth we are.
We mainly learn this from our parents or other people who were important in our development. Of course, if those people had low self-esteem, they passed it on, even if they were motivated by the best intentions.
What I want you to know is that if you’re struggling with low self-worth issues, it’s possible – and feasible – to overcome them. With some self-work that can help you take full responsibility of your story, heal your wounds and finally show up in your life in a completely different way. It’s the biggest gift we can do to ourselves.
We often think that low self-esteem is a personality trait and that there’s nothing we can do to change it. But it isn’t who you are, it’s a self-belief (deep down) and it shows up with some recurring behaviours, which are typical to all the people affected by low self-esteem.
The time it takes to heal, advance and to finally overcome the issue depends largely on you. You’re the most important part of the process and the more you’re willing to work for it, to courageously face the obstacles and the resistance you’ll likely face, the sooner you’ll get there. It’s not the same for everybody. I’ve seen clients taking 3 months to make substantial changes in their life. Others take 6 months. It also depends on how many wounds there are to heal, so during the process you can realise that you need as well some support from other specialists.
What I can say is that the sooner you’ll be willing to look into the parts of yourself that you reject – and finally accept them – the sooner it will happen for you as well. In the end, it’s all about self-acceptance.
This is why in my program Confidence from the Core there’s a specific module on self-acceptance and I don’t move to others aspects until the big work of seeing and accepting yourself as a human being is done.
I wish you well on this journey. It’s a wonderful one.