A resilient response to adverse events is not devoid of emotion. Expect to feel bad when bad things happen to you. Trying to put on a brave face usually means you’re attempting to suppress how you really feel, which signals incomplete emotional processing of the adverse experience and then leaves you poorly prepared for the next one.
Being resilient means being flexible, so you’re not stuck in your negative feelings, they don’t paralyse you. Remember that you feel as you think and changing how you think changes how you feel, thereby reducing the frequency, intensity and duration of your negative feelings.
Michael Neenan
In this article I talk about how you can take responsibility over your feelings and stop being a victim of them. With this simple exercise, coming from cognitive therapy, you can unstuck yourself and choose beliefs and solutions that serve you better.
Do you know those situations when you feel stuck, powerless and maybe even a victim of a specific environment, person or behaviour? Like, if you have a problem with the way your boss treats you, or the way a family member has opinions on what you should do with your life? Those situations that make you trigger and it seems like you can’t prevent yourself from reacting in a specific way or feeling what you feel – and blaming yourself later.
One of the most important lessons I learnt in my life is how to start over when everything falls apart. The end is a new beginning, isn’t it? So when what I did for most of my life stopped working for me, when my low self-confidence paired with feeling like a fraud brought me to a breakdown, I understood it was time for a change.
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