Learning to say no it’s important to make sure that your boundaries are respected and that you don’t waste time and energy in activities – or with people – that don’t matter to you. With this exercise, you’ll learn how to do it in 4 steps.
In the last post I wrote about setting healthy boundaries, and in order to set boundaries, you need to learn how to say no and to feel good about it. Because if you feel guilty, it’s a lot more difficult to say no.
It’s important to set healthy boundaries and state when something isn’t ok for you. Even more, if you a giver. Because the takers usually don’t set boundaries for you. With this exercise, you’ll learn how to set boundaries and make sure they are respected.
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most important – and hard to do – things you can do for yourself. It’s important because when our needs are overlooked by ourselves or others, we feel a strong sense of discomfort and even rage. And as women, we even learnt how to repress rage and avoid being considered high-maintenance. When this happens, it’s important to acknowledge our feelings and act on them.
If you are running after everyone’s else expectations, stated or presumed, you find yourself always busy, often exhausted and mainly satisfying everybody else but yourself. You rarely or never find time for yourself. That time is always left behind for when there will be time.