Living your purpose can be exciting and scary at the same time. Especially, because people around you will have the tendency to keep you where you are for reasons of so-called safety and security. If you really want to realise your purpose, you need to be clear about it, to love what you do and believe that your dream is achievable. In this post I guide you through the 3 steps to get there.
We need to hear women’s voices. We need their powerful contribution, we need their inspiration. We need to encourage women to stand up for themselves and have the courage of their convictions.
Especially in this historical moment, when the crisis invites us to create new solutions and to be part of the change. It’s important to encourage women who decide to take their place and live a life made of what matters to them. It’s important to support the voice of women who are looking for alternative solutions and are pushed by non-mainstream values.
It’s the opportunity to influence the change in the direction of a society that is more responsible, aware, compassionate and authentic. I strongly believe in this and supporting women who want to change their life or change the world, is my legacy.
Even if you don’t know yet what your purpose is or what kind of difference you want to make. Regardless if it’s about making a difference for 1 person or 10 or 10’000. I believe it’s time to have the courage of your convictions and make your goals happen.
When you are low in self-confidence, it takes guts to stand up for yourself. Even more, if your opinions are kind of different from the mainstream ones. You need clarity and confidence and basically, you need to stand on your own feet. Because being brave enough to stand up for your opinions implies that you may find yourself in the position of defending your convictions and values when other people around you disagree or don’t take you seriously. And this is when you need to take yourself seriously: your desires, your ideas, your feelings. Because if you are that strong, you’ll be able to deal also with people who will tell you that you don’t know how to do politics or business just because you want to do it in a different way. And being solid allows you to don’t compromise with your integrity in the name of how things are supposed to be.
Because the hard truth? Things are not supposed to be one way unless we want to. And this is why we need people who are ready to challenge the rules, to encourage growth, to share inspiring stories and live brave-heartedly. We need people who talk about empathy, courage, vulnerability, kindness and how to keep an open heart.
So you may already have a powerful dream or a powerful message but you don’t believe in it – or in yourself – enough to share it with the world. You tell yourself that it’s naive. You are scared that if you share who you really are and your true values, people can reject you. And here is where I want to help, because it’s doesn’t have to be that way.
If you want to stand up for yourself and your ideas, the first step is to be crystal clear about what matters to you. Take your notebook and let’s work on it!
Think about 3 situations when you lived amazing experiences, when you really felt like ‘being yourself’:
- Write down each one of these experiences.
- What made these experiences special?
- What do they have in common?
- Can you identify the values that you were living in these situations? Write them down.
Based on these answers:
- What makes for you an amazing day?
- What do you really like doing?
Let’s remove money from the equation: imagine that you don’t have to work for money.
- What would you do with your time?
- Imagine doing that every day. How would it be?
- Based on your previous answers, what does really matter to you?
- What does a successful day looks like for you?
- How would you define a successful life?
LOVE WHAT YOU ARE DOING
In the previous set of questions, you should have uncovered your values and what you really like doing. I know it can be scary, but thinking about it doesn’t imply any risk, so let go of that fear and keep going.
- What do you really like doing?
- How do you feel at the idea of liking it?
- Is this activity about helping others?
- What would you like to help others for?
- How would you like to help others?
- What makes this important to you?
- How would you feel, if you would spend your days doing this?
BELIEVE IN WHAT YOU ARE DOING
In the previous set of questions, you should have clarified even more what matters to you and what you like doing. Now let’s focus on what’s getting on the way.
As a child, you probably knew what you liked doing. There were some activities that made you get lost in your flow and you didn’t even see the time passing by. Chances are that when you grew up, you’ve been educated to use your time and energies for other activities, the ones often defined as more serious, the ones that were supposed to sustain you financially, to give you security and recognition.
But today that concept of security is pretty outdated. We need new solutions. So if you think about the activities that you love doing, what are the “Yes, but…” that come to your mind?
- List all the reasons for which what you like doing is not serious and can’t become your main activity in life.
- List all the reasons for which what you like doing matters and could become your main activity.
- Which one is the list that you decide to look at?
We shape our reality about what it’s possible and what is not. I am not saying easy, I’m saying possible.
And if the belief that what you like doing isn’t possible is making you sad, demotivated and forcing you into a job that you don’t want to do, it’s time to do something about it. Do it before it leads you to a crisis, to a breakdown or other health problems.
Because it’s not easy to go after our dreams, but it’s not easy to give up on them either.
I hope this helps!