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by Diana Malerba

How to stop being a victim

The victim mindset has a limiting and negative impact on a lot of women. If you’re stuck in this type of mindset, it will impact the way you see yourself and lower your self-esteem. It’ll impact the way you think, feel and behave in the world, leading you to be a victim again. This is why, if you want to be able to achieve your goals and live a bold life, switching to a winner mindset is mandatory.

Have you ever seen a woman who spends a lot of energy in blaming others and herself about what happened to her and explaining that this is why her life is destined to be a failure? A woman who seems to have a lot of bad luck and to be surrounded by manipulators and other people who keep taking advantage of her? Have you ever been that woman? I was and I know how hard it can be to stop being a victim. If you feel the same, this post is for you.

in HowTo / Inner Peace

by Diana Malerba

Are you a people pleaser?

If you are a people pleaser, you are used to behave as if you were worth less than others. You adapt to what others want – or what you think they want. But what’s behind this behaviour and how can you overcome it? With this exercise, I help you to get more clarity and make the first steps forward.

In this post I’m talking about what it means to be a people pleaser, from the perspective of a recovered one (myself). I’m talking about all those moments when you hold yourself back and choose to behave how you think it’s expected from you. When you say what you think others want to hear, when you behave in a way that is likeable on purpose – in some cases, just to regret it later. When you don’t express preferences, opinions and don’t set boundaries. Oh, I’ve done this for such a long time – and I still catch myself doing it sometimes.

in HowTo / Inner Peace

by Diana Malerba

How to stop being a perfectionist

This post is dedicated to all the women who work hard, give a lot and never spare a kind work. With this post I hope to make a little miracle happen, to help you seeing how amazing and beautiful you are. To finally ask something for yourself.

Perfectionism is the (unrealistic) expectation that generates the feeling of being never good enough.

It’s the reason why you don’t manage to stand up for yourself, be who you are and go after your goals. It’s the reason that keeps you struggling and running in high heels, trying to make it all. So you end up struggling to meet expectations, hustling and even blaming yourself for all the things you didn’t manage to do. And you wonder if you are good enough. I hear you.

in HowTo / Inner Peace / Work

by Diana Malerba

How to achieve what you want in your career or business

In this post I talk about how you can manage professional relationships with confidence and ease. The focus in on how you can achieve your goals, saying no and maintain a good relationship, and avoid wasting time in doing what doesn’t serve you.

Today I am going to talk about how you can get clear on what you want professionally and keep focused on it while moving forward. So that you can accomplish more, feel accomplished (it’s not the same) and grow professional relationships that really serve you. Professional relationships don’t come with a user guide and they can be challenging. Especially, I am thinking about those moments when you are asked or offered something and you know it’s not exactly what you want. But you’re afraid of saying no and having other people not liking it – or not liking you. So you may say yes, and get off track or even finding yourself wasting time in something that is not interesting for you.

in HowTo / Work

by Diana Malerba

Being a woman, making a difference

In this post, I talk about the current situation for women who want to make an impact, influence and lead. What women need to do and what companies need to do to support the evolution of the gender roles towards something that can be more effective and serve us all better.

Low self-confidence, money blocks, regular human bodies, fear of being disapproved, hardships from the past and gender roles. These are just some of the difficulties women have to deal with. Not to mention fear of failure, fear of success, fear of visibility, fear of speaking up, for the ones who want to make an impact, influence and lead.

in HowTo / Informational / Work