This post is for all the women who keep living a life made of compromises, coping strategies and dissatisfaction and still believe that this is what life is supposed to be. It’s for all the women who, consciously or unconsciously, think they can’t overcome their past wounds and hold back. For the ones who rationalise and tell themselves stories about where they come from and where they are meant to go, as if the past will be the future and nothing can be changed.
Self-acceptance is what will free you from the chains of low self-confidence. In this article, I talk about what happens before acceptance, that is resistance. Because changing a belief that you hold since you were a kid can change your whole life. And the good news? It will.
There’s a step in the path to self-confidence that is the less liked. Every woman passes through it before moving to the space of loving themselves, feeling confident and finally living a life that is no longer based on compromises. I experienced it too.
I am talking about what happens before the phase of self-acceptance: resistance. Resistance to accept who you are and that it’s enough.
There’s a radical change that happens when you start your journey to self-confidence and you’re committed to it. There are some obstacles in the path. But if you are really motivated to feel good in your skin and achieve your goals, you can overcome the resistance.
Learning to say no it’s important to make sure that your boundaries are respected and that you don’t waste time and energy in activities – or with people – that don’t matter to you. With this exercise, you’ll learn how to do it in 4 steps.
In the last post I wrote about setting healthy boundaries, and in order to set boundaries, you need to learn how to say no and to feel good about it. Because if you feel guilty, it’s a lot more difficult to say no.
It’s important to set healthy boundaries and state when something isn’t ok for you. Even more, if you a giver. Because the takers usually don’t set boundaries for you. With this exercise, you’ll learn how to set boundaries and make sure they are respected.
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most important – and hard to do – things you can do for yourself. It’s important because when our needs are overlooked by ourselves or others, we feel a strong sense of discomfort and even rage. And as women, we even learnt how to repress rage and avoid being considered high-maintenance. When this happens, it’s important to acknowledge our feelings and act on them.