Feeling confident is a very subjective feeling. You know when you feel confident and when you don’t. But what does it mean for you concretely?
If you’ve been struggling with low self-confidence or self-esteem for a while, you probably have already tried something to overcome them. Many women read books and attend workshops looking for confidence tips and I think it’s a great first step. I also know that as much as reading books is great, it won’t be enough to solve the problem. Because we can only solve the problem if we work on it (more on this in my approach to solve low self-confidence). So with this exercise I want to help you to get some clarity on what low self-confidence is for you.
I mentioned in a previous post that a self-confidence issue often hides a deeper self-esteem issue. And that both are based on a limiting self-belief about being good enough in order to be loved and supported. As I say often, we learn our inner truths when we are children and we develop a sense of how we are and how worth we are.
Learning to say no it’s important to make sure that your boundaries are respected and that you don’t waste time and energy in activities – or with people – that don’t matter to you. With this exercise, you’ll learn how to do it in 4 steps.
In the last post I wrote about setting healthy boundaries, and in order to set boundaries, you need to learn how to say no and to feel good about it. Because if you feel guilty, it’s a lot more difficult to say no.
It’s important to set healthy boundaries and state when something isn’t ok for you. Even more, if you a giver. Because the takers usually don’t set boundaries for you. With this exercise, you’ll learn how to set boundaries and make sure they are respected.
Setting healthy boundaries is one of the most important – and hard to do – things you can do for yourself. It’s important because when our needs are overlooked by ourselves or others, we feel a strong sense of discomfort and even rage. And as women, we even learnt how to repress rage and avoid being considered high-maintenance. When this happens, it’s important to acknowledge our feelings and act on them.